How Are You… Really?
“How are you?” Is one of the most common questions we ask every day—but are we actually prepared for an honest answer?
In this episode of Unfollow Me! Podcast, we explore what it means to move beyond automatic responses and have more honest, meaningful conversations. Listeners will take away practical ways to name their feelings with emotional honesty, communicate supportively with people who are struggling, and recognize the difference between healthy connection and trauma bonding. We also talk about why “I’m good” becomes the default, how to respond when the truth is hard to say, and what it looks like to truly show up for someone in pain.
We’re also discussing how to support loved ones through difficult seasons, the importance of creating safe spaces for honest conversations, and the difference between healing together and becoming stuck in trauma bonding.
In This Episode:
• Why “I’m good” has become our default response • What keeps us from telling the truth about how we’re feeling • How to answer “How are you?” during grief, loss, or trauma • Practical ways to support someone who is struggling • The difference between grief support and trauma bonding • Why asking someone how they’re doing should come with a willingness to truly listen
Questions to Reflect On:
• Do you tell the truth when someone asks how you’re doing? • Do you respond out of habit to avoid a difficult conversation? • How can you become a safer person for others to be honest with? • When someone says they’re not okay, how do you respond? • Are you asking because you care—or because it’s part of the conversation?
This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen with intention, and create space for authentic connection. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can offer isn’t advice—it’s our presence.
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In “Unfollow Medical Advice,” the conversation centers on learning when to question, when to seek additional perspectives, and how to build a healthier relationship with medical providers. It’s not about rejecting care. It’s about refusing to ignore your instincts and becoming more intentional with your health.
Stop outsourcing your entire health experience. Ask questions. Stay consistent with appointments. Move your body even when you don’t feel like it. And most importantly—trust yourself enough to speak up.
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Anyone who has grown up in a Christian space has heard at least one person say “God told me…” fill in the blank; and some have been a witness to the actual outcomes of said declarations. The ladies feel it’s time to really dissect this phrase that’s used way too loosely. They ask, Did God really tell you that or did you tell that to yourself? This topic is addressed in a lighthearted way with plenty of comic relief to keep listeners entertained. Tune in as they catch listeners and each other up on life.
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In this episode, the ladies unpack the culture of what Calundra calls “performativism.” She came up with this term to describe how performative behavior on social media slowly turns into a personality, and how the constant need to be seen as a “good” person, a good friend, or a successful business owner can quietly become exhausting. At what point does self-expression turn into self-surveillance? And more importantly… where does it end?
We also get into outing etiquette and presence—why every moment doesn’t need to be a work meeting, a brainstorm, or a content opportunity. Some outings are meant to be enjoyed, not optimized. Some conversations deserve your full attention, not half of you behind a screen replying to texts.
We talk about being present with friends, putting the phone down during meaningful moments, and the impact constant phone use has—especially at home with children. Decentering yourself from your phone isn’t about perfection; it’s about intention. Your relationships will feel it. Your nervous system will feel it. And yes—your kids will thank you.
This episode is an invitation to stop performing, start being present, and choose real connection over constant visibility.
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Happy New Year!! The gang’s all here 😎 Your faves are all back together for the next episode as they discuss popular topics such as going no contact with family, the “millennial career crisis,” and possible alternate routes to take in regard to motherhood. This episode is full, AND enhanced by comedic relief at the perfect moments. You know how we do!
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Which holiday traditions are actually worth keeping? Which ones are worth letting go? The ladies have this discussion with Keyerra Goosby (aka Calundra’s big sister) during their Friendsmas at Brittany’s house.
Keyerra is a Christmas fanatic who finds Christmas decorating therapeutic. Listen along as the ladies each share their perspectives on the holiday season and what comes with it!
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In this episode of Unfollow Me!, we dive into the uncomfortable but necessary process of outgrowing old versions of yourself. The internet loves to tell you what you “need” to do: take a solo trip, cut people off, heal in silence; but we’re breaking down what’s actually growth… and what’s just noise.
We unpack why “I’m not arguing, I’m growing” isn’t an excuse to disconnect from accountability, but an invitation to evolve. We also explore the real benefits of solo trips, from rediscovering your identity to creating space to think, feel, and reset.
Then we get into the tricky space between healing and avoidance — how to know when you’re doing the work versus hiding behind the language of self-care. And finally, we talk about creating terms and conditions for your life, so your boundaries aren’t optional, negotiable, or only respected when convenient.
This episode is a mix of honesty, humor, shared experiences, and the reminders we all need when our growth is making other people uncomfortable. Tune in and get ready to unfollow the advice that’s holding you back.
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In this spicy, boundary-breaking episode, we’re calling out the trending advice that absolutely deserves an unfollow. From cultural sayings we’ve normalized to social media “wisdom” that keeps people stuck, we’re unpacking the subtle (and not so subtle) red flags in the messages we were raised on.
We dive into the phrases that shaped us: “They’re still family,” “Respect your elders,” “What happens in this house stays in this house,” and we challenge the ways they’ve been used to silence, guilt, or limit people. We get into the myths that keep communities emotionally stagnant, like “pray about it” instead of getting therapy or trying to manifest without any action.
We’re also going there with the relationship and hustle culture advice that needs to go straight to the trash—like the idea that men who provide are automatically the prize, that relationships should be hard, or that children should always stay in a child’s place even when they’re harmed.
And for anyone ready to click “unfollow” after this episode? GOOD. This conversation is for the people ready to heal, question generational teachings, and build healthier lives instead of repeating harmful scripts.
If you love honest conversations, unpopular opinions, and rewiring the advice we never should’ve listened to then this episode is for you.
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Flying solo for this episode, Calundra sits down with Exhale Event Productions to unpack their inspiring journey, transforming a thankless side hustle into a thriving six-figure business in just four years. Jonathan (aka DJ NathanSynth) and Anthony (aka MC A-Rob) share their blueprint for success, offering insights for aspiring entrepreneurs and pulling back the curtain on the personal experiences that shaped who they are today.
Plus, Jonathan — who is also Calundra’s husband and the sound engineer behind the Unfollow Me! Podcast —reveals his latest business ventures and what’s next for Team Exhale.
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So many entrepreneurs say they want balance, but secretly, their self-worth is tied to their business performance. When a client doesn’t book, a post doesn’t hit, or feedback feels off—it’s personal.
In this episode, the ladies unpack what insecure business ownership looks like, how anxious attachment sneaks into your brand, and what it means to practice detached professionalism; staying emotionally grounded while still showing up with heart.
You’ll learn how to: •Recognize when your emotions are running your business decisions •Reframe rejection and unmet goals without internalizing them •Build emotional resilience and boundaries as a CEO •Detach without disconnecting from your mission or audience
If you’ve ever felt like your confidence rises and falls with your business results, this conversation will help you regulate, realign, and return to purpose.
⸻ Main Topics Covered: • The difference between emotional attachment and genuine passion • Signs of insecure business ownership • How “taking it personal” sabotages growth • Practical ways to practice detached professionalism • Rebuilding confidence from identity, not outcome
Key Takeaways: • Your business is an expression of you, not a definition of you. • Detachment isn’t cold—it’s clarity. • You can serve deeply without absorbing the weight of every response. • Emotional regulation is a business skill, not just self-care.
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